But that won’t stop the company who funded the survey from testing drugs that address this problem. “As with anything else, drugs are an absolute last resort—you need to try other fixes first,” says Ian Kerner, PhD, author of She Comes First. Start with these five (drug-free!) ways to increase your odds of climaxing. Get on top. Most women report that they’re more likely to have an orgasm when they’re on top. “This position stimulates the clitoris, and you have more control over the rhythm,” says Dr. Kerner. Stop thinking about work (and the kids, and the bills…). If you can’t relax, you’re probably not going to climax. We know—easier said than done. Start by going to bed half an hour before you’re really ready to get some shut eye; you’ll feel less rushed (and exhausted), making it easier for you to let go and enjoy the moment. Remove distractions from the bedroom. Speaking of enjoying the moment, it’s hard to let go when your bedroom doubles as your office, theatre, and dining area. Instead, consider the bedroom your sanctuary as a couple. It’s not a place for the dog’s bed. It’s not a place for your desktop. And it’s not a place to watch this week’s episode of Breaking Bad. That’s what living rooms are for. Rethink your foreplay. Everyday life can be a form of foreplay. No, we don’t mean touching each other in public: By enjoying your partner’s company, and trying new (non-sexual) activities, you become closer as a couple, ultimately making you feel more connected between the sheets. Really. Encourage deeper penetration. Want a vaginal orgasm? Try this trick: Prop yourself up on a pillow to allow for deeper penetration, as we reported in Ever Had A Vaginal Orgasm? MORE: 14 Days To Better Sex
