Whether you’re getting busy between the sheets or have a slightly lagging libido, here’s a strategy to add fire and pleasure to your sex life that you may not have thought of: meditation. “Your state of mind has a huge influence on your level of sexual satisfaction,” says Jill Blakeway, director of The Yinova Center and author of the new book Sex Again: Recharging your Libido, which offers modern ways to apply ancient wisdom and practices to your sexcapades and comes with an accompanying six-week sex-boosting plan. “Women would tell me they get distracted during sex, that they’re going over their to-do list in their heads,” Blakeway explains. (Can you relate?) “I realized that it’s about mindfulness, and by training people to be mindful, I start training them to enjoy sex more. And studies have verified that meditation can quiet the mental chatter that keeps women from enjoying sex fully.” So how do you calm the chatter and focus more on foreplay? Well, it turns out that daydreaming about tomorrow’s big meeting while getting it on is nothing new. Blakeway found that many of the ancient strategies for enhancing sexual pleasure in Taoist, Tai Chi, and Qigong traditions addressed that very problem. “The exercises designed to enhance sexual pleasure were about helping to maintain mental focus; they’re more like meditation techniques than just sexercises,” she says. For the lowdown Blakeway’s meditation tips, and their sexy benefits, read the rest of Well+GoodNYC’s Meditation For A Better Sex Life.
